If you’ve ever attended a wedding, you’ve probably heard somebody give a toast. It might have been the father of the bride, the mother of the groom, the best man, or another close friend or relative, but until this next wedding, it wasn’t you. But now somebody dear to you is getting married, and you want to give a toast that won’t leave your audience cringing, something that will elicit feelings of warmth and goodwill to the bride, groom, and all friends and family present. That sounds like a tall order, but don’t worry. We’ve got some tips to help you come up with a wedding toast that you’ll be proud to give, and everyone else will be happy to hear.
#1 Come Prepared
The time to start preparing for this wedding toast is right now. Unless you’re a regular Jerry Seinfeld, it’s probably not a good idea to improvise a wedding toast. Grab a pen and paper and brainstorm some ideas, things you might want to say. You can even give yourself an entire script. Nobody is going to judge you for reading off a card, but I definitely recommend rehearsing the toast a few times before the time comes to tap on that glass of champagne. That way you’ll be confident and smooth.
#2 Play To Your Strengths
When deciding what to say during your toast, it’s a good idea to make a note of what you excel at. For example, if you’ve never been a particularly funny person, it’s probably a better idea to save the humor for later. This isn’t the time to develop your talents; this is a time for giving a toast to two people who are getting married. Keep that in mind, and the whole process will be much easier for you.
#3 Don’t Forget To Introduce Yourself
This might sound obvious, but remember that not everyone at the wedding is going to know who you are. Start your toast with a simple introduction that lets everyone know your relationship with the bride and groom. If you’ve got a knack for humor, you may even want to throw in a little quip to break the ice. Remember, though, the toast is centered around the bride and groom, not yourself, so keep your introduction short, sweet, and to the point.
#4 Be Respectful and Gracious
Fill your toast with positive sentiments and well wishes. Do not, under any circumstances, mention an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, or anything that might remind the bride or groom of such.
Talk about bright futures and happy memories, the things you love about the union at hand. Thank the parents for raising such beautiful people, and thank the host for organizing the event. As I mentioned earlier, keep it simple. Don’t ramble, and keep the primary focus on the newlyweds and great things to come.
#5 Don’t Be Drunk
If you plan on getting drunk at the wedding, you’ll probably want to wait until after you give your toast. It might seem easier to speak in front of large groups of people after you’ve had a few drinks, but you don’t want to make a fool of yourself. You want your toast to be something that people will look back on in a positive way. Keep in mind that the people present, especially the bride and groom, will remember your toast for years to come. That’s why a level head is crucial when it comes to giving a toast. Last of all, remember that weddings are a time for celebration. Now get out there and celebrate!